How to break-up with someone with elegance ....

Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially when the relationship was long.

My advice to break with elegance, that is to say, without selfishness or cowardice, while allowing the other to begin to move on .

Things not to do

You have decided to / to leave ? Do not announce it anyhow.

Any break is not made ​​personally can be considered as an act of weakness texting , phone , email , letter, postcard , fax, via ... therefore be avoided .

Allow the other to live their pain is also a sign of good manners . Sometimes the temptation to want to feel that the other is also suffering : you / the leave , the fact that you are suffering is not his problem. Do not pull your hair lamenting that you / the worst , you're horrible, he / she deserves better than you ...

How to break-up

The only way to be stylish in the break-up is to face it / that you leave, to look at him / her straight in the eye and say, " I'm leaving ."

Notify him that in private, he / she must be able to scream, cry and express his (her) emotions at ease.

If you can, choose your moment : he / she does not have a critical examination, just after a meal or unavoidable family day plan.

Explain your motivations : he / she has the right to understand .

You can discuss your sadness, but in this field , let him (her) show.

Let him (her) hate you , if he / she chooses . You leave , you expel your life should you wish he / she redo his (her) life as quickly as possible . If he / she hates you , so much the better he / she can turn faster the page .

Gifts failure does not exist.

Leave him (her), and  do not prolong the drama , let him (her) live his (her) sadness and begin the grieving process . It's hard, but if both drown in a sea of ​​tears it does not help anyone .